HEALING HEARTACHES, STORIES OF LOSS AND LIFE

I Miss Back Then..

2012-02-07T08:28:00.005-05:00

My heartfelt condolences
to EE and her Mom Florence
on the passing of
"Pops" who died in the middle of the night
from Alzheimers disease.
May you find comfort in knowing
he is now free of the disease that took him for you in this life as he now watches over you from the heavens!

I miss back then...

As I prepare to head out for

Cleveland Ohio

and

wind my way to Livonia Michigan

today

I'm reflecting...

and

I've been reflecting all week-end

it seems,

finally deciding to share some thoughts that can best be described

as:

"I sure do miss back then".

I miss the days

when

folks spoke from their hearts

rather than their heads

and

when it seems that people were more genuine in their care of their fellow brothers and sisters of this world.

I miss the days

when we were more

human beings

rather than

civilized human "doings"

with clear intention

and

pure in purpose

of

unconditional care and concern.

I MISS

the days when people

STOPPED

or paused

when someone dies

to remember

to mourn

to

take the time

to realize that a member of the community is no longer with us

here on this earth.

We have become so

civilized

We have become

so damn important

in our thinking

in our

going on through our lives

with catchy phrases

"oh they are resting"

"oh they are at peace"

"oh shalom friends"

"oh let's keep going"

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I miss the days

of

folks stopping on the side of the road

when a procession went by

and standing quietly by the side of the road

to be and show respect.
You know, regular folks, not just celebrites
but the folks like those who have made a lasting place in our hearts, souls, nervous systems...

I miss those black armbands

worn long ago

as a "sign" of mourning

that let others

KNOW

a person is grieving, a sign that often demonstrated that mourning
rather than have someone out of the blue to stick their foot in their mouth with a comment like, "what's wrong with you today, you look like you lost your best friend?".
It may be that you had, it may be that with those armbands folks would just "get it",
would offer support unsolicited
and
folks would find themselves not feeling so alone in their pain of loss.
We have gotten away from the depth of understanding of others and after a short time when we want and need to hear the stories of those that are loved
we end up hearing only the inside of our heads
and would be healthy and happy to hear others acknowledge and honor

that someone they loved

had

died.
NO it is not helpful to hear someone tell you " I know just how you are feeling", NO it is not supportive to have someone launch into a story of their own saga of pain, NO it is not lovely to have someone to tell you "you will be fine" or "I UNDERSTAND"...
Maybe that is why
folks just don't talk anymore
they have nothing to say
and
just don't want to witness the pain
if they cannot call it their own?
OR
maybe we are just too civilized
as adults ...
OR
maybe folks just don't get it...

Yes,

I MISS RESPECT SHOWN

for the living

and

the impact a death has on individuals and

the community and the world at large

when they die.

I miss

RITUALS

and

understanding

and

care

and

authenticity

of

others.
I like rituals.

Have we become so used to not expressing genuine loss

and

feelings

that we no longer can pause

to care?

Have we forgotten

the great impact of each other

on the lives

in the Web of Life?

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I miss back then...

We may attempt to act more sophisticated

but

when you really think about it...

We are still a

death denying society, even those who are in the business of caring, the professionals who others view as having all the answers and providing the standards of how folks are "supposed to cope and deal with death/loss/grief".

We do not talk about it, we do not like it, we would rather sit silently, move on as if nothing significant has really happened,
or

offer lame comments of

"I'm sorry", "life goes on"

and

let it drop from sight.

We read of

impersonal and lack of passion

information

to inform of deaths

with no mention

of

passion, of heartache

as

a result of a member of our lives

or their love of life

now gone.

We settle for that.

We now hear that one has

"transitioned",

Kubler-Ross loved to talk about

graduation when she spoke of her impending death... she looked forward to "dancing in and on the galaxies".

She was given a grand send off

and

a book followed with lovely stories from those who were honored to know her

and

we reflected afterwards on a life of a woman who gave "death and dying" new meaning and shaped the world of

Hospice for pioneers

like

Mary Labyak and many others to then blaze trails and set standards of care

with passion, zest, and patient centered care to include all who loved them.

I miss back then.

We now attend funerals and memorials for young people at record number

attended by more people than can be counted; (the same young people attend that also used the same drugs in many cases still not making the connection);

they should not be dying at such young ages and from causes that could be prevented.

Prescription drug overdoses are killing people at numbers that boggle the mind

and

kids and adults are making choices

to party with prescription drugs

like they are M&M's.
What happened to the days of a beer, a bottle of cheap wine
and a joint back in the day?

Parents are burying their children

and

we have to wonder how did this become

something that is happening in our

country in such record numbers

leaving so many in such

heartache.

And yet...

I miss back then;

when folks lived

and

loved

and

others enjoyed their lives

making their way

the best way they could

and

when they needed a hand

one was extended to them

and

when their time on this earth was done

others were deeply affected.

We need to get back

to feeling deeply

to loving deeply

to being moved

deeply.

I guess the times have changed;

people have gotten used

to just going through their day

and

it's just the way it is.

But,

I remember once upon a time

when a person died

the whole community

stood still just for a little while

to honor

to support

and

to remember.

We are all a part of a Universal Connection

that is interconnected in the great web of life.

I wish people could remember

to not be so civilized

and

perhaps then

we could get to

back then and back WHEN.

Sitting a the kitchen table,

folks coming in with food,

gathering to share memories
and to lean in to one another
along the way.

I would prefer gathering with others and hearing life's stories of a person who has died

rather than watching a "continual looped video of a speech" in an uncomfortable setting of those who show out and show up cos' it is politically correct and ackward and impersonal but expected.

I miss back then

when folks

"kept it real"
were "authentic"
whether professional or not

back then

when expressions of love, life, real stories and shared grief

all were a part of one's life

and

we "felt" with all our senses.

Do you remember

back when? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPGvKwggtl0

Oh yes,

I miss back then and back when.

I bet those on the other side

just watch all of this

and

wonder.

Have a blessed day

knowing

YOU MATTER

in life and beyond to me...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YMLmlHfehQ

Final note: when those you love and those who matter to your life "get where they are going, and this life is over?"Just remember this: YES, you can cry, YOU can wail hoop and holler when the one you love gets where they are going... It's alright, no matter what anyone says... and yes, you will survive, you will find a time when it is time to make a choice to get back in the dance of life, and those you love "want YOU to dance" in this life every beat of the drum and every step you are blessed to dance.

Just so you know...

...

Walk In Beauty

DRSES

author of

Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss & Life

"Mary Labyak, Trip The Lights Fantastic in spirit land beautiful one, you were a fierce warrior and a grand dame. 63 years old, gone too soon."

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

Mary Labyak, HOSPICE has lost a Grand Dame and Pioneer...

2012-02-05T02:44:00.003-05:00

MARY LABYAK

visionary

Pioneer

Grand Dame

of the

Hospice World

died in her home

under the care of

the hospice that she created

more than 30 years ago.

~Feb 4, 2011 ~

We Will Miss A Phenomenal Woman

who began a journey

fueled with passion

and

the honest desire to make end of life

care

better for patients

and

those who love them. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jXrmAKBBTU

...

Thank you

Mary

for shaping the care

and

the world of

Hospice

through

your lifes work through the years.

...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mSaZK_BE-JY

YOU will be missed terribly

Hospice now must find its way

without you and your guidance

you

were a beacon that shined brightly

in this life

and

I have no doubt

that you will continue to shine now

on the other side.

Mary, Taft and I

...

Mary once a little girl from a small town

that I still after all these years cannot pronounce well
in

Michigan

grew into a Grand Dame of HOSPICE;
one respected around the world,

Licensed Social Worker,
a woman of boundless energy
and
passion beyond words,
she earned the rights as
she
"walked the walk and talked the talk"
like few we will ever meet in today's world,

She was a force to be reckoned with,
one who was no stranger to

Capital Hill as she advocated for

patients and families

in the provision of

Hospice Care for Americans
and
those around the globe.

She was a "fierce" and strong voice

in the National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization

and

the National Hospice Foundation.

...

She traveled the world speaking to thousands and thousands
along the way

and set standards for hospice care and access to services across the world since 1977.

http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=1290433898412362561

I could sit and listen to Mary talk for hours

and

she knew how to talk!
She had me at "hello" a hundred or so years ago when we first met, and first hugged;

and I always would laugh and tell her I had her name and a white rose tattooed over my heart!

She would laugh that most wonderful and deep laugh at that thought,
she had a laugh that could fill a room!

She was a brilliant woman, a beautiful woman,

and

a woman who received awards, praise,
even judgment along the way

and made a lasting impact on many along her journey.

...

She started out this thing known as hospice, in a garage, with a few folks and worked one end of Pinellas County *the largest county in Florida* to the other; and that little garage with a paper sack of papers just grew and grew
to become

the worlds largest hospice in the world! One that others stood, and admired,

and

heaven help them now that she is gone!

...

The end of an era

and

a woman who

stood for and advocated for

patients and those who loved them and the communites that they called home.

...

She leaves behind many who

will grieve her

many who will be better for knowing her

many who will

need time to adjust their lens of viewing

the world of

hospice and life itself

without

her.

She has been an inspiration to many, has angered others, and won the hearts of still others who would do just about anything for her.

She often would tell folks she sees things in

circles, *nothing linear about Mary*,

and circles will miss her terribly

now that she has

gone on to dance in the

Universal Circle of the Great Creator.

She always wanted all to remember

to put families and patients in

the center of the circle
and the first thing she would ask about just about anything is, "how will this help or benefit the patient and/or the family"!

So,

as we try to wrap our head around a world

that circles without Mary as the one

who stirs the very circle of hospice care, it's going to take some time,
she is a legend in her time.

...

We will continue to know

her landmark beginnings
and I hope folks
will continue to remind others of her impact
many

have grown and continue to grow

as we know

we must educate

and

work to get into more and more lives

sooner.

If we establish relationships when folks are ill, whether or not they find cures,

we will have already established relationships,

we will allow them to know

we are there

should a crisis occur

should the need arise,

they will know

we are here

we can be trusted.

Mary most recently in the last year or two

learned first hand

the world of illness

and

Cancer

...

She fought a hard battle against Cancer and her life was changed by all that involved

but

it was through the stories of others

that she got a first hand experience

suffering

along her journey.

She says she learned a lot on suffering

and

things she didn't understand personally;

things like

"they about have to kill ya to cure ya, as I have never been sick a day in my life, but the treatment about killed me."

...

Her lessons learned while sitting in the chemo rooms

were vast

and intense.

She believed that we cannot be satisfied to care as hospice only at the end of lives,

we have a responsibility to find a way to get involved much earlier

in the course of people's illness to not only help with physical illness and suffering

but

to find ways to live their lives better.

"And if they happen to come to hospice for end of life care later; then they will already be our friends". Mary Labyak

Here's a rose for you Mary,
it may just be the one we laughed about all those years

I know she saw it,

just as I had a vision about her death at some odd hours of the mornin yesterday...

I spent the day unsettled and in my heart

I knew

...

Mary said when accepting her award

last year,

that she didn't have any unfinished business for herself.
Her's had been a journey that she had lived fully.

I pray that true for her,

I pray her death was easy, peaceful, calm, painless

and that she danced into the

next place with her distinct and reamrkable Mary style and grace;

and

that she was with her beloved Taft.

I will hold her in my heart always

I do believe she was

a beautiful woman

who truly lived a life

that was awe-inspiring.
And...
OH that voice; how I loved Mary's voice,
she just had one of those
"I could sit and listen all day long" kind of voices!
...
When Mary walked into a room back in the day of Hospice conferences across the country,;
the room would hush,
folks would part
to give her space
and
at times she and another grand dame,
Dr Bernice Catherine Harper
would walk through that crowd
and take breaths away;
it was like Moses parting the red seas
when those two entered a room!
Oh how we will miss her.
...
Those were some
"grand days of hospice"

Hospice is a better place

because

Mary Labyak

was a pioneer
a
warrior

who set a standard

and

walked the walk

from

back in the day

right up

until the day

she died.

Thank you dear Mary

for our times together

and

I do believe

had some good times

...

Every Day Is A Gift

...

Dance on in the galaxies Mary

it is YOUR time now

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Walk In Beauty

DRSES

a grateful hospice "kola"

Healing Heartaches,

Stories of Loss and Life

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

Prayers goin up today

for all in the

Prayer Bowl

YOU know who you are

ARE WE READY FOR SOME SUPER SUNDAY???

2012-02-04T05:07:00.005-05:00

ARE YOU READY FOR

SOME

SUPER BOWL

Now I know it's Saturday

but

we have to get

our

Excited ON

don't we???

LOL

...

It's time

to get to the store,

get those Nachos, the sodas, the beer

the

CHICKEN WINGS

the ribs

and

get those jerseys on!!!

Time to fire up the grill

sit on the

"tail gates of your home or

your

truck

"your couch"

Well of course it doesn't matter what jerseys you put on

as the odds are great that your team is not one of the two that will be in the coveted positions of playing,

BUT

maybe just maybe

you are rooting

for one of those

teams?

Will it be New England

Will it be the Giants

who walk away the winners

of the

Super Bowl 2012?

Since everyone else has thrown in

their predictions of the winner,

I might as well throw mine in

and

I say

"the Giants will take it this year"

But then again, what do I know?

I'm mostly excited to

see the commercials

they usually just amaze me

and I am often heard to say,

"what I wouldn't give to have just a 1/10th

of that money spent on a commercial during the good ole Super Bowl"!

Can you even imagine

for 60 seconds

laying out that kinda money

in hopes we are all mezmorized to the

rather than in the kitchen filling our plates with food

getting a cold one

at a bar

and at that precise moment

gone to the bathroom?

...

The grills will fire up across the country

for those who haven't spent the money

and

decided to join the masses

to attend the famed

bowl

and

then there are the bars

who are counting on record numbers

to join with strangers

and immediately become

fierce friends

(or not)

as they root with all their might

for their teams

the team they have selected as a result of their team not making it to the

big event!

It is

THE BIGG EVENT

are YOU ready?

Here's the info/scoop

so you can be sure to feel like you are in the know: http://www.indianapolissuperbowl.com/

and you are going to be amazed at all there is to know

about

2012 Super Bowl!

And then there is the half-time show;

I bet the commissioner of the NFL

is having a some sleepless nights

as he thinks of

Madonna taking the field for that!

Talk about the potential of "wardrobe malfunctions"...

Madonna is known to trademark what most would call

"wardrobe malfunctions"

so I'm thinking

the ole' comissioner might just have some

hair loss over this selection this year!

As Madonna has already stated:

"I have eight minutes to set up my stage, 12 minutes to put on the greatest show on Earth, and I have seven minutes to take it down. So, that football field is clean for the second half of the game," she said. "How do you do that? But it will be epic!"

Maybe it's me, but I'm thinkin

Willie Nelson could have done

one helluva job

and

we wouldn't ever have to worry about

wardrobe malfunction!

...

It will be an intense evening

where two teams are pumped up

fired up

and

are wanting that ring

and

a trip to disney!

I still don't get the trip to disney though

since each player could in fact buy parcels of Disney or anything other thing should they desire!!!

Oh I just can't wait...

We get to see Beckman in underwear

and

his beautiful scuplted and tattooed body

...

We get to see Pepsi

in all its glory who is throwing the party.

BUT

we get to see

COKE and the bears

and

we all know that coke is the

"REAL THING"

when it comes to taste and commercials!

...

Tickets are going for

$2500.00 and UP

just imagine

for that kinda money you can be mobbed by folks, not see the game well

and

pick up trinkets and hear the maddening sounds of feet, hollers and jeers and cheers

you can go to the islands for a vacation

and put your toes in the water,

your butt in the sand

and

have a cold beer handed to you

while gazing at the aqua waters with your

relax on!

...

hmmm

decisions decisions

of course you can leave the sand

and

belly up to a bar

to watch the game up close and personal

as well I should think!

Don't ya just love choices?

Next thing we know

we'll see an ad that tells us in 30 seconds how to bring back someone from the dead! http://www.superbowlcommercials2012.net/

One thing is certain;

it's almost game time

but you have all day to prepare,

to think about who you want to emerge as the winner of this years

trophy

of this years ring

and

to be able to scream,

"I'm goin to Disney"

Have a super Saturday friends,

ARE YOU READY FOR SOME

FOOTBALL?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQ2mG1ugXBI&feature=related

Just a sample of the madness gearing up

for the big day!

ohhh it's goin to be a

FOOTBALL KINDA SUNDAY!

cAN you say

Super?

and we must say this:

GOD BLESS

THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA,

Thank you

to those who are and have served!

Make us

PROUD

Kelly Clarkson

when you sing that anthem!

The world is watching

and

we are depending on you

KICK it OFF

for

the

USA

Oh what an evening it will be

and

today I'm wishing you

all that you dare to dream!

Speaking of the

NATIONAL ANTHEM....

take a listen to

Patti

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxGK2Shp8po

*yes those pipes went places most would dare

never try*

haha

ARE YOU READY?

I think today

I'll just surround myself with

music

and

soak up some sun!

yep I'm ready!!!

The fire is burning brightly, the sage is lit

and

"you are on my mind and in my heart"

Walk In Beauty,

DRSES

author of

Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss and Life

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

WHISKEY RIVER and WILLIE NELSON!

2012-02-03T09:21:00.002-05:00

Willie Nelson's Guitar

WILLIE NESLON
the
ORIGINAL "OUTLAW"
the
master "storyteller"
the prophet of our times

just strolled on stage with his ole' friends

and

picked up that ole guitar, his trusted friend

and
with a look and a move of his fingers:
we were there!

"WHISKEY RIVER TOOK OUR MINDS"

into a night of

remarkable

Willie!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4WYHJNYX7k

It was a night of memories, of watching Willie and being amazed at his genius, and OMG, his mastery through the years...

He's been called a modern day prophet

since I can remember,

his way with words

and

his voice

his storytelling through that guitar and ability to tell stories that leave you wanting more.

Last night and 78 years old now

was no exception!

His voice powerful

and his carpel tunnel surgery seems to have made his skills on that guitar better than ever

as he threw some notes and picked that guitar to give it

the worn look and hole he shows proudly!

His sister Bobbie ran across those ivories on that piano

like she did in her youth

wearing her signature hat

and

taking her place at the piano!

Willie would turn to her and then

nod his head... his baby sister did her magic!

Oh boy would she then just take off on those keys

and do much more than

"tickle the ivories"

she made them talk to you!

She took my breath away

each time

she took command of the stage and the audience

as they went wild listening to her!

AND

of course there was

Mickey Rafeal the harmonica player!!!

"Oh how I love some Mickey"

and remember with such fun

all those years they would tour in DC

and times behind stage where I would just

enjoy so much

and that Mickey is still just as fierce now as he was then!

He is just off the chain remarkable

and can make that juice harp

do things that take your heart

and

Willie's words to new depths of understanding!

Willie

with Paul English on the Drums

...

Oh what a night,

and

he didn't give you time to take a breath

he moved from one song and one setting that guitar on fire

the next!

The audience were like jumping jacks

on their feet to show him how much he is loved

how much his music is appreciated through the years

and

the hoops and hollers and whistles with each beginning strike of a chord or each sound of the piano, harmonica

beat of the drum

Willie knew

that most of those there

"appreciated and have sat in many a bar, a home, a boat"

and

listened and been there with him through the years!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iZaZqx9v3dU

ONe after the other
Willie sang em,
we all LOVED HIM
AND
HIS MUSIC!

And

he played/sang right up until he left the building!

Enjoy

"You Don't Think I'm Funny Anymore"

cos'

Willie had a blast singin it last night!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJGvz4OYwXE&feature=relmfu

hahaha

It was a night filled of Willie and his family! And a night of great friends together, to celebrate the wonder of Willie and relive some memories that are just too good to write about!

When you have the time

and

want to hear a modern day prophet tell of life

ups/downs/arounds

and

with such poetry in living

take a journey of musical wonder

through the years of

Willie Nelson!

He's not getting any older I've decided

he's just

WILLIE NELSON

and

last night they were selling all sorts of things of his merchandise that folks were purchasing like crazy.

The one thing I think is a darn good idea said this:

WILLIE NELSON FOR PRESIDENT 2012

PAUL ENGLISH FOR VICE

...

Willie sang many of my most favorite songs last night

he dusted some off from years ago,

each with a rawness of the Outlaws

as he sang one for Waylon

as he sang

"Me N Paul" for Paul English

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_2WeE52IyE

what a life they've lived~

and

then he sang this:

and

once again

I lost my breath and was lost in time

for awhile:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgNxAGjgt-Y&feature=related

welcome to the week-end

i hope it is spectacular!

Perhaps I should jump in the car to West Palm Beach

and

catch Patti Labelle as she is performing there tonight!!!

JUST KIDDING!!!!!

I'm thinking I'll just enjoy this day

and

give the neighbors a musical delight

as I crank the volume even higher

after giving the 4 leggeds earplugs

and

enjoy

Patti Labelle and Willie

I continue

to stay blessed with the musical blessings

of the legends

that I was with the last two nights!

May you enjoy all that is waiting for you!

STOMP

Walk in Beauty

DRSES

author of

Healing Heartaches

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

*I had a fabulous outrageous times friends, thank you so much...

and

to my friends Michael and Kevin of security: you are fantastic, and I appreciate you! Look forward to seeing you again*

Patti Labelle really got me last night...Spirit/Tears/Love

2012-02-02T07:31:00.001-05:00

Patti Labelle

"All you have to do is

come as YOU are"

OHHHH People http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3w57WSKUrpw

Ms Patti walked on the stage;

and my heart dropped!

Yes yes she was

PATTI;

she was the "diva"

the

elegant and remarkable

Patti Labelle

But...

I've loved and seen and been with

Patti through the years;

I have a keen sense

and

I could tell that

Patti was walking on to that stage

heart broken and in tremendous pain

last night.

It took my breath away

and

I hurt for her.

Patti is a woman of great strength

and

she

sang like the legend she is...

BUT

I knew, and it pained me

and at the same time

she filled my soul!

it was a night

of spirit filled music

seeing once again

"my Patti"

and it filled my heart!

Oh yes, I was close to her, so close I could feel her energy, her pain, and at times the music carried her

to places

where I've been before in my soul

and

again last night I went there again

and

it filled me up!

And

I worry so about the beloved

Patti Labelle

who now has diabetes

who has severe back pain

and

who let everyone know last night

she is now

68 years YOUNG

and

still standing!

Of course she walked on that stage

with

"attitude"

and those 6" heels!

And don't you just know

they were

just like the ones

that the crew place on Oprah's feet at her tapings

of her shows!!!

RED SOLED INDEED

but

our Patti knows how to work em

and

walk in em

and

still can bust a move while wearing them!

Sorry Oprah,

but

true is true!

Just imagine...

those legs

those shoes

and

red soles!

WAHT UP OPRAH?

I want me some red soles shoes... but probably I would do better with some

like Kamryn's ... you know

Michael JOrdon sneakers with red soles

so I am not too far off the ground!

Patti is a little thing,

but with those shoes

oh my

she is as tall as one could imagine!

She is

just simply

PATTI

and

oh what a gift to the music scene

and

to those who genuinely love her

and

are filled by her songs, her life

her

brilliance of stage

and

her voice!

AND

yes,

she took me

Somewhere Over The Rainbow

...

and I thanked her for it

I loved her and gave her a copy of

Healing Heartaches.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dn4ZVBx2cuw&feature=related

Patti gave her all, her muscians gave Patti all she needed

to in turn give her audience more than they expected.

But those of us

there that really know

Patti,

we are worried,

LOVE HER

and

We'll Stand by HER

...

She sang

"Two STeps Away"

and

she really got me with her rendition of the night

with a guitarist on one side

her bass player on the other

and her sitting on a stool.

I just lost it.

She touched me in a way

that made me realize

...

well let's just leave it at that.

Patti, you really got me last night,

and

Yes

I love you too.

We're all just two steps away!

"Take your time Patti, just take your time"

...

It was good to be remembered by that

big ole' Teddy Bear Bodyguard of Patti's

and

I am ever so glad he takes such great care

Patti!

Love you baby boy!!!

Walk on Ms Patti

YOU ARE TRULY

AN INSPIRATION

GIFT

AND

YOU'LL NEVER WALK ALONE!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szhTtl6CuO8&feature=related

OH how I miss that

wild hair

she used to delight us with!

Talk about a "trend setter"

"walking/dancing to the beat of a different drum"

...

Yep

that is Patti!

LOL

We've sure had some times

and

what a class act delivering some powerful songs

Sing Patti, SING YOUR SONGS!!!

I'm just filled with the spirit

and

feel like I'm sitting right in the middle of a rainbow

last night I tripped the rainbow from one end to the other!

BUT

tonight

Laura and Mitch

are giving us our Christmas present

and

I am sure to trip to the other side of that rainbow

or take up my seat

right in the middle of it

I return to

Ruth Eckerd Hall

listen to

none other than

WILLIE NELSON!!!

Can you even imagine

my sensory overload this week?

hahaha

Oh but to be in my head/heart/nervous system!!!

I'll be over the rainbow,

reflecting

on time with Patti

enjoying

OLD FRIENDS

beautiful memories

and

in my way of thinkin

it just doesn't get any better ....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fY48-44Uyf8

I wish you all that I am blessed to feel today!

Walk in Beauty,

DRSES

still listening to Patti in my heart

and filling the neighborhood with

a combination

of her and Willie

...

Now that is a duo I would love to hear!

Heaing

and

seeing all

clearly!

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

to order your book

Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss and Life

PATTI LABELLE ~ WHEN YOU'VE BEEN BLESSED!

2012-02-01T09:53:00.007-05:00

HOW I LOVE ME SOME

MS PATTI LABELLE

cos

"When you been BLESSED

it feels like HEAVEN"

and

babies you just gotta

"pass it on"

Ms Patti says,

"PASS IT ON"

...

and Patti knows how to pass it on!

She's been passin it on for years now

and

I've been takin each pass she sends out

with each octave she hits

with each and ever beautiful smile

and

dance step

and

high heel she throws

and

new move she busts

while telling her stories through her music!

I do miss the WILD hair styles

and

so wish she would

bring back

the mohawk

from back in the day!

BUT

one thing that I do believe

and

lawd please don't let me ever hear otherwise...

I just don't think I could bear it...

PATTI LABELLE

"real".

She keeps it real, she always has!

And that coupled with her voice

is the reason I have

always loved her.

...

She has lived a life filled with angst, fear, and has walked through some pretty dark places through the years,

but

her voice has pulled her from the ashes

like the phoenix.

Hers is a life faith-filled and it has sustained her

when

the high stars and honors shunned her

and life was less than kind...

awards weren't placed in her hands as they should have been.

She's been a guest at the White House

*she had her hot sauce in her purse then to spice up the food*

and had no problem pullin it out!

She's been a guest on Oprah

and

sang to her...

*Oprah still hasn't held up

my copy of

Healing Heartaches, nor has she placed it on her

book club" *waht up OPRAH?*

Patti has stood on stages

and

shared her grief so loudly

that the tears flowed from her face

into the audience

who screamed

"Take your time Patti, we love you".

She patted her face, rubbed off her make-up,

and

admitted that she wasn't there for her beloved sister

Jackie prior to her death,

and then would break into song

and

sing

"The Wind Beneath My Wings"

dedicated to Jackie.

Patti Labelle

a woman who has been all over the world

and

oh what a light she has cast

and

what sounds she has taken over the rainbow and back!

A woman who was afraid she would not live to see

as those she loved the most had died prior to that age,

now is doing her "thang"

with grace, beauty, style and class

after moving on past 50, NOW 60

in her high style

and

with a voice

that only the Creator could keep so pure

and

a fan base that loves her where there is no space or time.

oHHH the hair!

Ms Patti had some hair now,

from the days

Patti, Nora and Sarah

and

the

"BlueBells, Labelle"

they were and still are...>fierce!

Patti and her girls in reunions have been just

off the hook as they join together on stages

and

sing like the diva

she is!

Patti is a class act,

one who has sung with just about everyone

in the industry

to include

a young man recently on

America's Got Talent!

He won if I remember

and

his dream was to sing with Patti!

He had previously worked in a car wash,

and

when that young man opened his mouth

Sinatra came out!

Wouldn't you know he won... and when he sang with Patti,

rather then upstage him, she moved to the back of the stage

and let him have the light...

She applauded him and moved to the back, quietly exiting the stage

knowing it was time for him to shine,

his wish and dream fulfilled!

That is a star that shines beyond the heavens.

I LOVE ME SOME PATTI!!!

I can remember one year

in DC

Patti was there for a three day tour,

and

I had tickets for each night

oh goodness I was exhausted at the end of that tour!

I had to lay down when it was all said and done

I had overdosed on dancing, on singing

being with Patti backstage

being filled with her voice

and

with the spirit

and

the blessings!

IT WAS WONDERFUL

~~~

Music is a great balm for the soul

a great healer for all

and

magical.

Patti Labelle is magician of music

who will take you to depths

that your soul is just not used to going!

AND

move you?

OH my, whether you are confined to your bed

a wheel chair

or free to lift your feet,

Patti and her music, her band

YOU WILL BE MOVED!

and

once you have recovered

you can read her books of recipes

and

feed your body

as you listen to her fill you with sounds!

I have often told warriors here,

"I'll stand by you"

and there is no better way to tell it

than to share Patti singing it

as she sang it to the soldiers.

Listen, watch, FEEL

the energy of Patti

as she moves through this song

with such raw emotion

and

pure intention

and oh that voice!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vU_JL-f0AN8

OH yes, Patti will fill you up...

and

she is HERE

in Florida

and

tonight

I will be with Patti

listening with all my senses to her as she just sings

her heart out!

And I will be taken away, to the musical heavens

and over the rainbow

and

I am over the top about it!
Here's few of Patti's thoughts:

People with no humor, they're outta my life.
Patti LaBelle

So if anybody wants to get me something, get me 60 crabs - one for each year. I don't want no diamonds, I don't want no shoes, I don't want no party. I want some crabs.
Patti LaBelle

So if diva means giving your best, then yes, I guess I am a diva.
Patti LaBelle

Now that is about as real as real can stay
but then again
Patti don't need
diamonds
if you take a good look at her neck
if
you are near the stage to get blinded by her DuBeers diamond on her finger
and
if you take a gaze at that shoe on her foot
right before she kicks it off during her performance
and
it lands who knows where
but she is always able to find it later in the night!!!
Bring on the crabs and the HOT SAUCE...

Can you tell I know and love me some Patti?

I will also see Patti afterwards and give her an autographed copy of

Healing Heartaches

I think she is goin to appreciate it,

but

Patti would appreciate

a brown bag

filled with crab claws better!

She does love her some crab!
Just maybe
Patti will hold that book or shift it to some one's hand
that is on a "talk show"
haha
But i doubt it will be Oprah
as I think ole' Oprah burnt a bridge with Patti
by not being the "real deal"!
Go figure...
"WAHT UP OPRAH, I'M STILL WAITING FOR YOU"?

The funny thing is watching watch folks bring her

and the people at concert halls that try to take your cameras away from you and often succeed.

Patti will tell fans,

"Baby if you want your picture now is the time to get it,

my make up is about to drip, my hair is about to flip, so c'mon and get your pictures"!!!

Well the sad truth is, we've all been frisked at the doors in most venues!

These days of smart phones and clever fans, most will find a way to smuggle in cameras though

and get their precious pictures of Patti
*YEP that includes ole' DRSES*!

And

oh the flowers she receives from those who love her

and

make their way to the edge of the stage to present them!

Patti loves her some flowers

and the piano sitting on stage usually has a brilliant vase

that includes bird of paradise with other wonderful colors and textures for her.

Fans will adore the moment

will try to touch her,

to get eye contact

with her

and

to once again while she busts a move

and

hits 5 octaves

let her know

"Patti we love you"

she is truly one of the most gifted artists

this musical world will ever know!

A diva?

You betcha, she earned the rights,
she earned and walked the walk,

and

she has the voice to back it up

one whose songs

tell a story

whose faith

has brought her through some trying times

and

who stands with tremendous and amazing grace

through it all.
Oh as I look back into the memories
and the times shared
I reflect on my dearest friend
Eileen
and the night we saw Patti together in D.C.
ohhhhh my
we had the best of times
as I was busted for a camera at the security entrance,
having to run to a house having a "frat party"
and
begging them to hold my camera for me safely until the end of the night!
Eileen thought I had lost my mind and camera
but
ohhhh it will be fine
and
it was
only to retrieve it and meet Patti afterwards in the limo
to get my pictures and introduce her to
my bestie ole Eileen!
I now will text her with simply the words
"2 steps away" my friend
...
We all have the power of being
just 2 STEPS AWAY
from each other in our hearts
from our happiness in our
lives
from what we want
whether in this life or the next place... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQWIS1vhYlE&feature=related

And tonight I will have Eileen in my heart and in thought
as she is but 2 steps away
in my thoughts
as
I am filled with Patti
and that remarkable gift of the Creator
her voice
her "swag"
and
her smile that lights up the darkest of nights
and
her pure bliss that she receives when she feels the love
of so many for so many years.
SING PATTI, JUST TAKE YOUR TIME!!!

NOW

with friends like us

Patti will never go broke

as she likes to tell you!

...

But

wherever you are today

I want you to know

friends are a valued and treasured gift

treat them well,

hold them tight

and

remember

YOU ARE MY FRIEND

and if this rendition of Patti don't move ya

I just don't know what ever would!!!

Cos "Debbie Henry" has some pipes on her that Patti loves to share with the world...

What a woman, what a voice, what

what am I to do tonight?

Lawd I think I'll just lose my mind with all this

excitement and JOY!!!

YOU ARE MY FRIEND...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzEChdqjbGY

"i'VE BEEN LOOKIN AROUND AND YOU WERE HERE ALL ALONG"

Dont ya just love it!!!

Gives ya something to think about now doesn't it???

Go on now,

"Dont block the blessings"
express some gratitude
for the day
and
LIVE IT LARGE!

Be well,

enjoy

Listen to some Patti

and

sing!

It's good for your heart

Walk in Beauty

DRSES

author of

Healing Heartaches, Stories of Life and Loss

ohhh

what a life

you are my friend!!!

Weeds in The Flower Beds!

2012-01-30T09:39:00.001-05:00

Joyous

Monday Morning

To YOU

Sending you

Tulips and Redbuds this morning

and

a morning

DANCE ON THE DESKS

and the tables

and

wherever you might be!

Oh it's a morning of fun here

now that I'm over the letter I opened after my latest trip to the cold of Nebraska and Iowa!

Of course while there I was told that 29 degrees is not really what one calls cold out there, as they are having a very mild time of January!!!

Love it!

One persons perception is not always the reality

of others...

Speaking of reality

and

speaking of letters

and

speaking of joyous

...

AND

speaking of the title of todays

thoughts

...

Bear with me

it will all come together I'm sure

well

maybe not

for all, after all

perception is often the lens in which we see things

and

I am convinced that some see things

just through a very strange lens!

I opened a letter from a place

called

"INTEGRITY MANAGEMENT"

once home from my trip this weekend.

They are the folks

who are in charge of writing the letters from the

home owners association

also known

as the folks that have nothing to do other than

get in the business of others here in our neighborhood.

You know the ones

the association that you pay enormous amount of money to each year to keep the neighborhood "nice"

whatever that means.

I suspect the huge check that gets written keeps the

grounds mowed

however you still need to mow your own yard

and powerwash your sidewalk and driveway

but

I still haven't figured out what they do with the check that gets sent out each year.

Other than perhaps have a group of people walk through the neighborhood and then compile a useless letter of

the likes that I received

and

then promply

"went off" after reading it!

So,

I receive this letter from a place called

INTEGRITY

which tells me

I am in "violation"

and tells me

*paint or clean your mailbox

*CLEAN THE WEEDS FROM YOUR FLOWER BEDS

*trash bags are in front of your house

Please take care of these things as you are in violation!!!

I re read it

and

then I felt cold chills go off in my brain.

ARE YOU FOR REAL?

...

oH HEAVENS not the mailbox?

They are concerned about the mailbox being cleaned or painted?

The very same mailbox that resembles so many within our community that have been the victims of punks that live in the neighborhood who get their thrills by beating them with baseball bats?

Surely they should have been sitting up little hideouts to catch these kids rather than walking the neighborhood on a sunny day writing notes on those of us who have been the victims of their teens who are the ones doing the deeds?

Maybe the money we shell out each year can go into a fund to replace the posts!!!

Now there is a plan whose time has come!

Weeds in the flower beds?

In January when the beautiful flowers are not in bloom?

Can you even imagine such a terrible thing?

And to put it in a letter of "violation"

Those suburbanites!!!

Go figure.

What if it is really a "weed garden" and a stray flower was put there by an over zealous bird?

The Creator doesn't make us get rid of folks who are less than perfect, yet they are saying I have to exterminate my less than perfect growings of the Creator?

What in the world has the association now deemed itself able o do here?

Have they lost their ever lovin mind?

If it is so very offensive to them, perhaps they should not come onto MY property, up my sidewalk and gaze into my

flower/weed garden

and

then write their notes

and

send

Integrity a letter, only then to have

Integrity send me a letter of violation.

Ah, I think I am beginning to see where my yearly association monies are going to ...

Trash bags in front of my house?

Well

How bout' being a good neighbor and taking them to the curb

after all the trash runs on Monday

and

those bags were filled with yard clippings from the over grown bushes and

freaking WEEDS

...

They were sitting there from the yard work of the weekend

waiting to go to the curb.

YOU IDIOTS!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6P7g_qz2OU&feature=related

Perhaps they just need to

DANCE

to not be so wooly in their attempts at

being

BULLIES!

.,.

It may behoove you to take care of your OWN yards

and

your own business

and

stay out of those of your neighbors.

...

I understand fully why people do not like living in

deed restricted home own association neighborhoods.

Hell I didn't know what one was

UNTIL I MOVED HERE!

Of course

mine was not the only letter opened this week or over the weekend...

Sandy and Stu next door

the home of the fire?

Well they were raked over coals over their roof

still not repaired.

BUT no neighbor bothered to ask about the progress

the damages

that continue to be repaired.

The roof

"offended" them that it is not perfect.

They have been working their fingers and backs and spirits to the bone to restore within so that they can lay down at night in the idea of being back in their home safely.

I really doubt that they go outside at night and gaze up at the roof look to be reminded of what has been.

They are well aware of what has yet to be done!

...

I can only imagine that they joined me with a

"voice mail" message

INTEGRITY

...

I can imagine that they also had a good time

wadding that paper up

and throwing it in the trash when finished!

>>><<<

As for my

"weeds"

I plan on letting them be for now,

they are doing just fine where they are

and

it just might be that they are protecting some lovely things that are trying to grow

and for that matter they may just grow themselves

into what I think is lovely!

...

The mailbox holds mail

and

does it need cleaning?

Probably... it's on the list.

I see no trash bags, and if the village who is filled with idiots would have thought before they lept,

they would have saved their ink

knowing the trash was running the next day!

they could have been a good neighbor

and

taken it to the curb.

BUT

then again,

the "patrol of those who want to judge"

probably do not reach out to care, nor to help

it's not in their DNA.

The moral of the

story?

Let weeds be weeds

and

let others do what they do

as long as it does not harm you!

If you see where you may lend a hand

imagine how good that will feel not only to you

but

to another!

Aren't those tulips just lovely

and

what a great day to

REJOICE

JOYOUS

and

STAND WITH INTEGRITY

...

Walk in Beauty

DRSES

author of

HEALING HEARTACHES, Stories of Loss and Life

and

ohhh what a life it is!

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

I'm Wishing YOU A...

2012-01-29T10:48:00.001-05:00

I'm wishing YOU

"tomato sandwich"

kinda day!

Blessed filled

kinda

day

Sunday that warms you from the soul

kinda

DAY

A day that just is

filled with good times

LAUGHTER til your face hurts

kinda day

day

that activates your brilliant brain

your

nervious system

in grand ways

KINDA DAY

and with that said...

I'm wishing

Mom/COB

Dorothy Sowers

Dublin Virginia

the

best birthday ever

today

!!!

And I sure am happy she was birthed

by Granny

...

Love YOU Mom

Celebrate, sing

and

otherwise have

a FANTASTIC CELEBRATION

...

I hear that D'Vante, Kamrynand Cuzze are goin to really celebrate you well today!!!

That COB

she ain't aged a bit!!!

>&lt

HAPPY BIRTHDAY
TO
STEPHANIE
aka
"TWEAK"
Here's to all your wildest dreams dear and
your best realities!
Celebrate the wonder of you today!
><

To the Korabek's; Susan and Greg

I am thinking of you today

as it is the day

you gave birth to a little boy

named

Landon

...

He is 19 as you sit today and celebrate his birth
and will remember him

and wonder how today would have been
had he been with you
you will wonder
you will share a tear
a time of reflection
of profound sadness
of what could have been
and
you will wonder
and
then
you will
have to think

what is happening as he plays the guitar in

spirit-land

and

trips the chords in the Next Place
with wild abandon
and
unconditional love with the
Creator
and so many who have gone before him
and now probably jams with the late and great
Etta James...

ONE LOVE

take best care of each other

and know you are being held in the arms

of him

and

those who care deeply!

CELEBRATE THE WONDERS OF HIS LIFE

not the moment

that he left this side of life!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdB-8eLEW8g

The sun is shining brightly

and

the sage is lit

for healing ways

beautiful moments

and

choices to be made mindfully

we step into the ending of January

with

ONE LOVE

...

I am wishing you a day

that is

filled with the magic of

YOU!

Take best care friends

and

celebrate all that surrounds you in this wonderful thing we know as life;

and if you are stretching to find a reason?

Celebrate the birthdays and memories of those mentioned today!

Get out there and

PLAY!

FOR:

Janelle Simms, Diane Estes, Susan, P.J. , Caroloyn Hartsfield; granddaughter of Frank Scott Elder of the Cherokee,Betty D., Lucy, Nayla Foster, Erick, Patricia, Bob, Deb, Jack, Tweak, Onesie, Jenn, Brian, Nurses at Geisinger, Fawn, Adry, Eileen, Jaz,

Bill in CT with Pancreatic Cancer... (FIGHT Bill, embrace the love and support of your sons, those who love you, of Kelly and the healing ways now, and FIGHT THE FIGHT OF YOUR LIFE), We here will surround you in prayer, in HOPE and in strength...

For Shannon's Dad Mr. Markowski, who has recently fallen and broken a hip, our thoughts are with you in your recovery sir, may you find your path to recovery and wellness soon!

For, all who stop in here and are in our prayer bowl, we are thinking of you and prayers are going up!
Bill Simpson and Family, Jenn, Steph, Dana, Kari, Cindee, Peggy, Joyce Cruz, a CANCER surivor working at Southwest Airlines *it was an honor to meet you dear one*,
Ike Davis, in New Mexico, an artisan who plays in the mud and creates beautiful tings out there, *www.negroartist.com*
what a joy you are to so many of
SOUTHWEST, thank you for visiting with me,
prayers of continued success and tobacco to your Pueblo uncle!
and for

Curtis, Susie Langham, Stasia and Billy Hall, Christina Chavez and Rick and Ryan, Pam Meyer, Whitney, Diane Bystista, Susan, Leann Vincent, Roxanne Duran, Carole Poppendeck, Mary Jo H-shortes, Bridget, Robert Tanner Mara Tanner, Yolanda L Acosta, Antonio F. Balderrama, Denise Flowers, Lisa Balance, Sherry Stedman, Rose, Marquette, Acosta, Ortega, The Pueblo Peoples,

All those I was honored to spend time with in

"Nebraska, Iowa, Geisinger,Ohio, Crossroads Hospice, El Paso, Santa Fe, Albuquerque"

Thank you Frontier Airlines

for a delightful

trip home!

Jeremy, Florence, Cal, Sarch, our new friends of Portugal, Mike, AnnMary,Stephanie, Jimmy, Keli, Kasi, Katherine, Julie, Allan, Lynda,LeeAnn,
KS Comfort Keepers, Stephen Bright, Linda and staff tI learned there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead, others come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me. -- Dr. Seuss here; Melody,Brenda A and children Sarah, David Rachel; Gloria, Pete, Fred, Max, JJ, Barb and Leo Henning, Rick Fechner, Ryan Baurain, Melissa Reid, "Probation Professional pals", Jim Vander May (*who has been working in the Professional field for 45 years in Michigan*, Dale, Herschel, Bonnie, Louise, Holly, Jerry, Faith, Yvette, Happy, Audrey,

and

Rod Markowski, Lynn, Ryan, Jordon, Darryl Markowski, I thank you for your service) Brian Markowski, Shannon Becker, Nick, Reagan, Dr Iris of Detroit Medical Center, (was lovely meeting you on the flight, please take best care of you) Sandy R. Carol, Stephanie, Marnie, Geri, Chris, Matt,
those in Oklahoma City, in Tulsa, In Ft Worth, Dallas, Ike,
Isabel, Teresa, Janelle, Patricia, Susan, Karen, Laura in Yuba City CA,
Crossroads Hospice and those who care out there working and walking the walk, Perry, Clayton, George, Janet, and all in green!
Rick, Calley, Ron, Rebekeh, Brenda, Becca, Audrey, Gabe, Dena, BEth, Lill, Jay Hanson, Jennifer, Beth Jett, Huntsville AL, Sheri, Wendy Reese and family, The Boy Scouts of Dora AL, Cam, Sandy, Toby, Edith Vaughn and family,Susan, Greg and Kyle Korabek (Landon Korabek on the other side now), Stephen Bright and family, Walter Littlemoon, Jane, Laura, Mitch, Jenn, Chris, Mary, Taft, Martha Deaver, Morris, Dahlee, Rose Brick, The Baitinger Family, The Yaslowitz Family, The St Petersbug PD, Congresswoman Gabbie and her family, Dahlee in NJ, Judy Kelley, beloved husband and family, Jennifer, (now being watched over by her beloved husband and child), Norma, EE, Little Cub to CJ and Angel eyes Jack, Daniel, Dave, Cindy and Steve, Marty, Sweet Pea and Pie Face, Florence, Jeremy, Dennis, Darrel, Greg, Leroy, Rebekka, Carly, John, Diana, Crystal, Karen, Janet, Callie, Lorie, Laura, Larry,

2 Wolves and Jinx in SD, (http://www.2wolvescreations.com/)

Kelly and family,Judy W and her 4 sons up there in New England, Cherokee Wick, Benni, Gayle, Jonathan, Great Aunt Effie's family, Marilyn Warren, Ilene, Ericka, Hannah Sherabow, Pam C. and family, Susan S., Angela A., Nancy W, Sue G, Kelly and family,Susan Brouse, Cindy and Stevie, Kim, Olatz, EVB, Guin, Yiva, Mary, Sandra and family, Christina Hellen, Susan and Greg, Amy, Becky and Barry Long, Christina, Matt and children, Aaron, Lisa and family, Freda, Linda Katie, Pat D, Tink and Mitch, LITTLE Ben, Jerry, Trish, Barb, Anastasia, Mary, Rylee, Lindsay, Ann, Sarah, Ruth, Johnny, Bobby and the Tucker Family, The Spraker Family,Kenny H, Michelle, Sandy, Addie and family in Canada, Sandy, BraveHeart, Rowena, Chris, Robyn Elizabeth, Jean, Duke,Rowena, Chris, Baby Robyn Elizabeth, Diane Smallze and family, Patti and family, The Korabek Family and friends, The Gasse Family and Friends,

Officer Crawford of St Petersburg, The Kocab Family, baby Lilly Nicole Kocab, The Curtis Family, Tarpon PD, those serving here and there in Uniform... Those now walking The Thin Blue Line, (far to many joining that line recently across our Nation),

Mylee, Mikey and family in DC, Jack M & Janis in OC, Stephen, Stuart Wittel (back from his 4th tour as a fighter pilot of the US MARINES inAfghanistan) and his parents Sandy and Stuart, Lavie Coltrane and her loving family, Andrea Gasse and family here and in New England, Ali and family, Randy and Winnie in New Mexico, Jill Wheaton L, Dr Peter in NY, Dr Rev Bev, Irene M, Bernice, Dorothy, Angela, Kamryn Elijah, Ode, Vicki, Matthew and family, Chris, Lovie, Nancy, Pedro and Our adopted family in BRAZIL, Our North American Black American Bears, The Windcross Convservacy and those beautiful Spanish Mustangs known as "pocket ponies"... the dolpins , always our most remarkable dolphins!!!

AND for:
Anne, Jim, JADE, Joseph, Cathy Madden, Nathan, and her family., Cindy in NC, Liz, Lee, Molly, Joanie, Jude, COFA, Judi, Ken, Matthew, Nick, Matt, Mark's family and many friends , Pat, Irene, Kevin, Dr D, Deb, Randy, Dr B, Isabelle, Kelsey, Sabrina , Charlie and family, Jean, Julie, Rhonda, Victoria, Mildred, Andi and family, Faith, Denise, Jim, Tom, Joey, Shelby friends and family, Judi, Phylis, Joyce, Gina, Tonya, Beverly and Family, Janeth, Melissa,Virginia, Stacey, Elizabeth, Nita, Gary Siegal, Adrienna, Brian Mawbey, the Boyan Family, Jean R and friend Christy Rider, Victoria and hubbie, Stephen, Gayle, Steph, Chris, Erica, Eileen, John, Mindy, Jack, Susan Werth Becken, her brother Mike and family, Craig James Lightfoot and his family, Kenny, Audrey, Ed Saner, Patty Crowley, Bennie, Gail, Jonathan, Moe, Beverly, Dennis, Peter, Trish, Cynthia, Heidi and her family, Kathy Knights family, Edith Vaughn, Candy, Cynthia, Jenn, Eve, Edith, Jason, Karen, Linda, Joyce, Belinda, Jeanette, Jennifer, Patti, Sandy S, and ...

(Feel free to let me know if you would like to add your/or a friends name to our prayer bowl)

Prayers goin up for those
in
Southwest Virginia who now have this horrible flu/virus
and
for EE in Colorado who has been so very ill out there; she is soon on her way to Denver for that Kidney surgery and we will all send her healing energy for a positive outcome
and the Creators hands to lead her team of surgeons there
and
strength in speedy healing and recovery in her beautiful home with her son to care for and nurture her to wellness!
you are being thought of so very often
...

Walk In Beauty
DRSESwww.drsherryeshowalter.com

Don't Like IT?

2012-01-28T12:15:00.000-05:00

Just saying

YOU don't like something

then

DON'T DO IT

It's really not complicated is it!

Good morning Saturday

Good Afternoon Saturday

Good evening Saturday

Well now that we've accomplished that

HOW IN THE WORLD ARE YA?

I saw that sign and just thought to myself

well now that about

says it better than

I ever could!

I am home from a great trip to

NEBRASKA and IOWA

where I was just pleased as pleased could be

to meet some lovely folks!

The days got much better

those seats and tables were filled with people

and

with their energies

as we spent time together!

I was grateful for my

"cuddle duds"

cos ohhh boy was it chilly out there in the

WEST!

I've had a lot of folks stop by and read my thoughts on

"The Words of Some Are Brilliant"

I guess that is a good thing!

It is interesting as many times folks don't need to comment

on a thought but you know they are reading

and

from reading thoughts are processed

and

shared!

I've been told that many not always like the truth

and sometimes the truth is painful

we all plug in and tune in and share thoughts and opinions

that then go out into cyber space

never again to be retrieved.

Sometimes tempers run amuck in the world of computers

and the energy gets out there

in jagged ways

and

grudges get held

when

if we sit and think about it we realize we don't even know what got us all jacked up in the first place

nor do we really even know if the person we were upset is

really the person we thought they were at all!

That is the funniest part of it

when you peel the onion and truly get to the core;

I've realized that on the magic of

Facebook many many people have

"fake identities"

or many many aliases!

You may be thinking all along you know someone

only to find out months or a year later

that the view and opinions

expressed are not even the person you

came to call a pal or even a friend!

WOW

that is amazing isn't it?

Some have told me that they have invested

time, tears, laughter

and

then came to find out

they the person or persons they did all this

was

someone they would not break bread with

and

did not resemble anything like the person

they thought they had known!

Learning a lot to late

at times

takes us aback.

Judgments and fears and fights and ugliness

all that could have been avoided

had

we been mindful

had

we been kind

had

we remembered the "golden rule"

of how we live our lives.

This takes me back to the picture above

...

It really is quite simple.

We have men and women and service dogs

FIGHTING FOR OUR VERY FREEDOMS

laying it all down

and

we in turn lay down in our warm beds at night,

enjoy our TV

our

internet

our

cell phones

our

homes.

...

We are free because of the BRAVE

have choices with each breath we take.

I do not remember

that anyone

all of a sudden

decided we were

the one

JUDGE anyone

...

But

I do know this;

we all walk in our own foot steps

we ALL

walk our own path,

and

have our own heart beat.

IF you have a beef with someone,

it's time to settle it or walk away from it.

What is the point

folks making others feel bad

wishing them ill

sending them messages of ridiculous

judgment and accusations

when

kindness and understanding and gentleness

will get you to heaven a whole lot easier

someday

and

living here right here right now

will be a whole lot more fun

and

make you feel a whole lot better

physically, emotionally, spiritually!~!!

So,

If you

DON'T LIKE IT

DON'T DO IT

Is the message of the day!

Thanks to all in Nebraska and Iowa

for a great tour

and

to those of Frontier Airlines

it was a hoot

and a great flight!

For my pal in the front isle seat on Frontier last night

I enjoyed you immensely

thanks for the laughs

and

indeed

the Village was missing one of its own!!!

Be safe out there sir, you are a joy!

Walk in Beauty friends,

DRSES

author of

Healing Heartaches, Stories of Loss and LIfe

order yours at:

www.drsherryeshowalter.com

The Words of Some are Brilliant!

2012-01-22T10:10:00.001-05:00

D'Vante said

"IT WAS THE BEST GIFT EVER"

Oh the wonders of computers,

IPODS

IPADS

Cell phones

Smart phones

being

"connected"

"signing on"

and

"FACEBOOK"

and

the

"greatness of keyboards"

and

"tuning in"

and

"turning on"

and

"staying connected"

and

"being glued to the screen"

anytime

and

any day

and

having virtual friends

and

feeling

"CONNECTED"

...

The power of being

"anonymous"

and

"powerful"

hidden behind a screen

with identities that are just over the top!

...

We are now just hooked to technology

many are addicted

and

it is never more apparent

than at airports

on planes

and

even at restaurants

where you see people unable to set those phones down

to hold conversations the

"old fashion way"

...

When flying home from Central PA

I was amazed at the number of conversations I was privvy to

including how to get into a business computer

*had I had a pencil and paper*

as a gentleman told his colleague by cellphone

how to get into the computer to access a customer account!

I was amazed at the

number of conversations

as we were waiting to

"take off"

wondering how many of those calls

could have waited

how many could have taken the time

to close their eyes

and

just unwind

perhaps even think about their day,

count their blessings

perhaps

even just

RELAX

into the moment

people watch even!

After all it is rather amazing

if you just watch the folks boarding

with their many and assorted overstuff bags

as they make their way down the isle in search of their seat

carrying bags that are

stuffed

with all manner of things

and a cup

Starbuckes gripped in their teeth!

Hoping beyond hope that they dont lose their grip and spill it as they pass you by!

Why you ask is the coffee in their teeth by the rim of the cup?

Well of course they don't have the extra hand

cos' that is busy holding

the

CELL PHONE

while the other hand

grips the bag holding the kitchen sink and their clothes!

Then they have to get angry that it doesn't fit

in the overhead

where

of course there is no room

for what appears to be

body bag

that they just had to bring on board with them!

BUT

once they are seated

oh my!

The phones are blowing up,

the

Facebook updates are being made

and

here we go...

It takes the flight attendents to hit the isle and tell folks

power down,

it takes the overhead reminders

to turn everything

OFF.

And

we are a Nation of those who can hardly stand

it.

We are

handcuffed to the internet

the

phones

and

a beautiful woman has written a piece about it

on her blog

that really nails it all!

I am goin to share it with you here today

by providing the link to her blog

I think you will find it worthy of

sharing with those you know

perhaps you will even print it out

and

sharing it at your workplace

suggesting it to a magazine,

putting it on the pages of your own

Facebook wall!

It is profound, it is filled with truth

and

it addresses a problem

that truly is

authentic!

Folks are just taking this internet thing to extremes.

I witnessed this myself over the last year on the

Lily The Black Bear page,

and

I must admit,

I too got caught in its web of what I realized after awhile was filled with deceit, manipulation and lack of integrity there.

A page that seemed pure in its intent of

research and care of the

North American Black Bears

and

a den cam that I became rather addicted to watching;

one that took up too much of my time quite frankly!

At times I had friends tell me I was losing my mind

as I watched with complete awe a bear give birth in her den!

A dear friend looked on and then looked at me rather astonished and remarked,

"Well I am now worried about you ... this is about as exciting as watching paint dry... what are YOU DOING?"

...

And then it happened, I watched grown adults on the Lily page turn on each other; I watched them assign human emotions to wild Bears, dress them in costumes and celebrate with virtual parties, as they became addicted to bears in the wild, as they had fundraisers and took food from their own tables donated like crazy to a man who did research on these animals!

I observed people from other states and communites forsake their own neighborhoods to contribute to a little town and its school systems raising monies for their town

on behalf of North American BlacI Bears that live in the woods

and last I checked those bears do not go to school, don't need the very things that folks were raising money for in a little community that was not the one those fans lived in!

Oh my, I heard the stories of folks not cleaning their homes nor fixing dinner for their familes nor wanting to go about their lives because they were "captivated by the internet and the pages of Faecebook and the man who asked for donations on the bear pages"! Many were caught up in the throes of grief, in the idea of sending "long johns, mittens, food and such things to a reseracher who has chosen to walk with bears in the cold weather of the North cold lands of the forest" I can't help but to believe that this man can well afford to purchase his own mittens and long johns after the many years he has walked in the cold weather there...

Bears will be bears without human interference, and perhaps they will live longer without the scent of man?

I watched with horror as people showed the worst side of humanity and acted with such meaness and actual threats, and even those threats to include wishes that others would die extended to each other while idolizing researchers who began to show less than integrity and honesty in their dealings with bears and humans alike.

We are talking grown, middle aged women and men here!

NOT LITTLE OR SCHOOL AGED HORMONE RAGING TEENS HERE!!!

People who should know better!

What appeared to start out as an effort to educate and bring people from all over the globe together in a caring community

about and for the

North American Black Bears

appeared to have become

a page of people

out to

destroy each other

and

to take

and

to allow others to be bullied, stomped and trampled along the way

while people lost their kindness and compassion

for each other

along with their money and their pride and their honesty

in day to day caring.

I have often stated that page was a marvelous study in

human behavior for anyone doing their dissertation

for a Phd in human behavior.

The schools are adopting a

zero tolerance for bullying,

children are committing suicide as a result of bullying

as parents wonder why, as they lay awake at night and think of ways to stop such irresponsible acts.

And

here in this day and age

we witness bullying by adults on the internet,

we see and witness adults doing these things and claim it is a result of stress over their love of their "cause"

as a result of their "passion"

as a part of their desire

to be involved

and

I watched it from grown women who one day are stating they are "good Christians" and are praying for the North American Black Bears

and in the next tyings they are making death threats to hunters and to the moderators of the Lily Bear Facebook site or to others who post there because they don't like a comment or a thought of another...

Some admit that they hit the enter button too quickly

while others then say

they guess they were a little stressed!

Let's face it...

people just have gone over the edge of responsiblity and accountability of their behaviors in many cases.

Many will pray for bears while threatening their fellow wo/man

and doing harm on their way to church

on those pages

and

that just boggles the mind of the sane.

It seems to me that many are just wired a bit too tightly

while still others are just plain out needing to unplug the connection to the great internet

and

step back and reevaluate

their priorites!

Life is more than that great phone or computer

or the

idea of sitting behind a screen

and pretending to be

for all the wrong reasons.

With that said today

haha

as I sit at this computer

and

gaze upon the screen here,

I will now share this wonderful blog

and

hope you will subscibe!

"WORK THE DREAM" is a blog worthy of reading daily

as it is just filled with wonderment

by a gifted writer.

Please comment back here after reading and let me know your thoughts,

I do believe it is a powerful piece. http://workthedream.wordpress.com/2012/01/21/my-lost-time-on-the-computer/

I think you will join me in applauding the

authenticity of the writer and her words here!

Bravo!!!

It's a beautiful day in Florida today

and

in the morning

I will be in cuddle duds headed west

to the cold lands of Nebraska and Iowa!!!

Blessings to all who gather,

and

to all those who are wrapped in the throes of this internet

and

get "hooked into the ugliness part... STAND UP, shake it off and remember who you are" Kindness is never out of style, it's time to ask for forgiveness to those you have wounded when you were too absorbed to see the error of your ways, and get back to the compassion of your passion.

FOR:
Patricia, Bob, Deb, Jack, Tweak, Onesie, Jenn, Brian, Nurses at Geisinger, Fawn, Adry, Eileen, Jaz,

Safe journey to
Kelly2Wolves who is on her way to CT to care for family there
we will be surrounding you and yours with prayers dear one!

Bill in CT who has just been diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer... (FIGHT Bill, embrace the love and support of your sons, those who love you, of Kelly and the healing ways now, and FIGHT THE FIGHT OF YOUR LIFE), We here will surround you in prayer, in HOPE and in strength...

For Shannon's Dad Mr. Markowski, who has recently fallen and broken a hip, our thoughts are with you in your recovery sir, may you find your path to recovery and wellness soon!

For, all who stop in here and are in our prayer bowl, we are thinking of you and prayers are going up!

Bill Simpson and Family, Jenn, Steph, Dana, Kari, Cindee, Peggy, Joyce Cruz, a CANCER surivor working at Southwest Airlines *it was an honor to meet you dear one*,
Ike Davis, in New Mexico, an artisan who plays in the mud and creates beautiful tings out there, *www.negroartist.com*
what a joy you are to so many of
SOUTHWEST, thank you for visiting with me,
prayers of continued success and tobacco to your Pueblo uncle!
and for
Curtis, Susie Langham, Stasia and Billy Hall, Christina Chavez and Rick and Ryan, Pam Meyer, Whitney, Diane Bystista, Susan, Leann Vincent, Roxanne Duran, Carole Poppendeck, Mary Jo H-shortes, Bridget, Robert Tanner Mara Tanner, Yolanda L Acosta, Antonio F. Balderrama, Denise Flowers, Lisa Balance, Sherry Stedman, Rose, Marquette, Acosta, Ortega, The Pueblo Peoples,

All those I was honored to spend time with in
"Geisinger,Ohio, Crossroads Hospice, El Paso, Santa Fe, Albuquerque"

Jeremy, Florence, Cal, Sarch, our new friends of Portugal, Mike, AnnMary,Stephanie, Jimmy, Keli, Kasi, Katherine, Julie, Allan, Lynda,LeeAnn,
KS Comfort Keepers, Stephen Bright, Linda and staff tI learned there are troubles of more than one kind. Some come from ahead, others come from behind. But I've bought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see. Now my troubles are going to have trouble with me. -- Dr. Seuss here; Melody,Brenda A and children Sarah, David Rachel; Gloria, Pete, Fred, Max, JJ, Barb and Leo Henning, Rick Fechner, Ryan Baurain, Melissa Reid, "Probation Professional pals", Jim Vander May (*who has been working in the Professional field for 45 years in Michigan*, Dale, Herschel, Bonnie, Louise, Holly, Jerry, Faith, Yvette, Happy, Audrey,

and

Rod Markowski, Lynn, Ryan, Jordon, Darryl Markowski, I thank you for your service) Brian Markowski, Shannon Becker, Nick, Reagan, Dr Iris of Detroit Medical Center, (was lovely meeting you on the flight, please take best care of you) Sandy R. Carol, Stephanie, Marnie, Geri, Chris, Matt,
those in Oklahoma City, in Tulsa, In Ft Worth, Dallas, Ike,
Isabel, Teresa, Janelle, Patricia, Susan, Karen, Laura in Yuba City CA,
Crossroads Hospice and those who care out there working and walking the walk, Perry, Clayton, George, Janet, and all in green!
Rick, Calley, Ron, Rebekeh, Brenda, Becca, Audrey, Gabe, Dena, BEth, Lill, Jay Hanson, Jennifer, Beth Jett, Huntsville AL, Sheri, Wendy Reese and family, The Boy Scouts of Dora AL, Cam, Sandy, Toby, Edith Vaughn and family,Susan, Greg and Kyle Korabek (Landon Korabek on the other side now), Stephen Bright and family, Walter Littlemoon, Jane, Laura, Mitch, Jenn, Chris, Mary, Taft, Martha Deaver, Morris, Dahlee, Rose Brick, The Baitinger Family, The Yaslowitz Family, The St Petersbug PD, Congresswoman Gabbie and her family, Dahlee in NJ, Judy Kelley, beloved husband and family, Jennifer, (now being watched over by her beloved husband and child), Norma, EE, Little Cub to CJ and Angel eyes Jack, Daniel, Dave, Cindy and Steve, Marty, Sweet Pea and Pie Face, Florence, Jeremy, Dennis, Darrel, Greg, Leroy, Rebekka, Carly, John, Diana, Crystal, Karen, Janet, Callie, Lorie, Laura, Larry,

2 Wolves and Jinx in SD, (http://www.2wolvescreations.com/)

Kelly and family,Judy W and her 4 sons up there in New England, Cherokee Wick, Benni, Gayle, Jonathan, Great Aunt Effie's family, Marilyn Warren, Ilene, Ericka, Hannah Sherabow, Pam C. and family, Susan S., Angela A., Nancy W, Sue G, Kelly and family,Susan Brouse, Cindy and Stevie, Kim, Olatz, EVB, Guin, Yiva, Mary, Sandra and family, Christina Hellen, Susan and Greg, Amy, Becky and Barry Long, Christina, Matt and children, Aaron, Lisa and family, Freda, Linda Katie, Pat D, Tink and Mitch, LITTLE Ben, Jerry, Trish, Barb, Anastasia, Mary, Rylee, Lindsay, Ann, Sarah, Ruth, Johnny, Bobby and the Tucker Family, The Spraker Family,Kenny H, Michelle, Sandy, Addie and family in Canada, Sandy, BraveHeart, Rowena, Chris, Robyn Elizabeth, Jean, Duke,Rowena, Chris, Baby Robyn Elizabeth, Diane Smallze and family, Patti and family, The Korabek Family and friends, The Gasse Family and Friends,

Officer Crawford of St Petersburg, The Kocab Family, baby Lilly Nicole Kocab, The Curtis Family, Tarpon PD, those serving here and there in Uniform... Those now walking The Thin Blue Line, (far to many joining that line recently across our Nation),

Mylee, Mikey and family in DC, Jack M & Janis in OC, Stephen, Stuart Wittel (back from his 4th tour as a fighter pilot of the US MARINES inAfghanistan) and his parents Sandy and Stuart, Lavie Coltrane and her loving family, Andrea Gasse and family here and in New England, Ali and family, Randy and Winnie in New Mexico, Jill Wheaton L, Dr Peter in NY, Dr Rev Bev, Irene M, Bernice, Dorothy, Angela, Kamryn Elijah, Ode, Vicki, Matthew and family, Chris, Lovie, Nancy, Pedro and Our adopted family in BRAZIL, Our North American Black American Bears, The Windcross Convservacy and those beautiful Spanish Mustangs known as "pocket ponies"... the dolpins , always our most remarkable dolphins!!!

AND for:
Anne, Jim, JADE, Joseph, Cathy Madden, Nathan, and her family., Cindy in NC, Liz, Lee, Molly, Joanie, Jude, COFA, Judi, Ken, Matthew, Nick, Matt, Mark's family and many friends , Pat, Irene, Kevin, Dr D, Deb, Randy, Dr B, Isabelle, Kelsey, Sabrina , Charlie and family, Jean, Julie, Rhonda, Victoria, Mildred, Andi and family, Faith, Denise, Jim, Tom, Joey, Shelby friends and family, Judi, Phylis, Joyce, Gina, Tonya, Beverly and Family, Janeth, Melissa,Virginia, Stacey, Elizabeth, Nita, Gary Siegal, Adrienna, Brian Mawbey, the Boyan Family, Jean R and friend Christy Rider, Victoria and hubbie, Stephen, Gayle, Steph, Chris, Erica, Eileen, John, Mindy, Jack, Susan Werth Becken, her brother Mike and family, Craig James Lightfoot and his family, Kenny, Audrey, Ed Saner, Patty Crowley, Bennie, Gail, Jonathan, Moe, Beverly, Dennis, Peter, Trish, Cynthia, Heidi and her family, Kathy Knights family, Edith Vaughn, Candy, Cynthia, Jenn, Eve, Edith, Jason, Karen, Linda, Joyce, Belinda, Jeanette, Jennifer, Patti, Sandy S, and ...

(Feel free to let me know if you would like to add your/or a friends name to our prayer bowl)

Prayers goin up for those
in
Southwest Virginia who now have this horrible flu/virus
and
for EE in Colorado who has been so very ill out there; she is soon on her way to Denver for that Kidney surgery and we will all send her healing energy for a positive outcome
and the Creators hands to lead her team of surgeons there
and
strength in speedy healing and recovery in her beautiful home with her son to care for and nurture her to wellness!
you are being thought of so very often
...

Walk In Beauty
DRSES
www.drsherryeshowalter.com